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Use The Carpenter's Rule
Improve The Odds!
Learn About Relationships!
Screen For The Right Partner
Make Sure You Are Both Committed
Do A Great Process, Don't Leave It To Be "Up To The Universe"
Read this section.
Plan In Order To Be Effective And Efficient
Use These Resources!
compatibility. Insurance! Also, identify your salient features, for marketing!
VITAL READINGS - Read and know these BEFORE you even consider a relationship! RESOURCES - Use these - be an expert, as it will pay!!
USE THE CARPENTER'S RULE!:
"MEASURE TWICE, CUT ONCE"
Make sure you measure while in a rational process... See the readings and the warnings!!!
It is such a waste of life to make the mistake that is so easy - and later so costly, even down to losing a part of one's life, forever!!!
IMPROVETHE ODDS - Vital!!!!!
want to save alot of effort and be alot happier - priceless!
Romance and The Neurochemicals of Attachment (for the long term!)
1) LEARN ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS
So you'll know what to expect and to not be unrealistic or unaccepting, so you'll know about gender differences and how to work with them, so you'll know how to run a relationship!!!!! Read, at least, before going any further today the pre-marriage minimum: Essential Quick Grounding In Relationships . Then go to Learn/Master/Build.
2) MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON:
AND make sure one of the absolute requirements is to meet the compatibility test!!!!
TRULY WANT - This was written to help a particular person create all the elements of a
description of the desired person, who she will need to be and how she would describe that.
This is a necessary exercise for everyone who wants a relationship.
what you want in a relationship.
3) MAKE SURE YOU'RE BOTH COMMITTED TO WHAT WORKS
DO THIS GREAT PROCESS - DON'T LET IT BE "UP TO THE UNIVERSE"!
1) REVIEW THIS SECTION:
Read the key documents (in capital letters) as a grounding exercise and then items that are of
interest. You can read the website like a book, if you print the items of interest and insert it into
On each sitemap page, (F) = a worksheet or form to fill out and/or use.
Overview - THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT SINGLE DECISION OF YOUR LIFE!
The strategies needed, including filling up one's own tank so that one is not
shopping while too hungry or not functional.
USE THE BOOKS, WORKSHOPS, CD'S AND DVD'S, BELOW.
Vital tests: Remember the Carpenter's Rule: Measure Twice, Cut Once!!!!!
Are you compatible?
at the reality of how or whether you'll fit together will save a lot of heartache and
wasted time. Fooling yourself for the sake of some short term romance is a waste
of your life and it fills the space in which your true partner can come.
Specifying what I want: Test the other person against your clear wants list.
YOU TRULY WANT - This was written to help a particular person create all the
elements of a description of the desired person, who she will need to be and how
she would describe that. This is a necessary exercise for everyone who wants a
Feedback - Getting Realistic Feedback To See What You Are Doing Or Need To
fashioning what you want in a relationship.
See additional items below. Try the tests on eHarmony. Answer honestly without
rose-colored lenses and based on how they are now, without change.
The next level tests are at "Creating A New Relationship".
The most vital test of all - Will your partner commit to (at least work up to)
(actually) seeking to get from a relationship and why do you pick the people you
If It will be a good relationship
Example of a very "authentic, defining" internet listing powerfully done:
in terms of traits, behaviors, and beliefs regarding relationships. You should find a
few things that you might want to alter if you truly want to have a real and enduring
What is really wanted? If you don't know and name the reality, you have very little
chance of achieving it!
See eharmony CD, below!
2) PLAN IN ORDER TO BE EFFECTIVE AND EFFICIENT!!!
The Vital Planning
a great partner, you might wish to do this planning well!!!
would include all of these elements in our plan.
accomplishment of your goal!
Stages of A Relationship and the choices around which way to go. Also, you should look
at the Agreements and Planning subsections to Sustaining.
3) USE THESE RESOURCES
Websites: (See the educational sections mentioned.)
Singles.com - A central site for singles evaluating all that is available for singles.
Learn And Match:
EHarmony.com - Supposedly the best "matcher" in terms of more criteria. See
Singles.com evaluation. Educational programs available on line, plus see the absolutely
essential 12 CD series.
Match.com - The biggest. See also MindBindFind by Dr. Phil education series for defining
and ridding yourself of unwanted relationship issues.
Matchmaker.com - Also one of the top.
PlentyOfFish.com - Free site, growing by leaps and bounds
Workshops highly recommended especially for this stage of relationship (see others in
Engaged encounter workshops: Run usually by religious organizations but you're not
required to be a member. Friends have taken marriage related workshops through
the Catholic Marriage Encounter and Retrouvaille and they say there was no
interference by religion. Typically taught by a priest and two married couples. Go to
each and find when they are scheduled and take one as soon as you can! See the
Run search engine based using "Engaged Encounter" for others
CD's, DVD's particular to not yet marrieds.
A! Finding The Love Of Your Life, 12 CD series, eHarmony.com - Essential learning.