Contents/Links Barbara

DETAILED CONTENTS AND LINKS TO BARBARA'S JOURNEY

FINDING THE WAY "HOME"

Many of the items below are links to pieces that are not strictly Barbara specific, but they are inserted because these are to be read and implemented by Barbara or the many others who experience some similar things, from lack of confidence, self-criticism, shame, guilt to negative views about life.

Accumulated Undelivered Communications

Scan bolded items for interest as those are the relevant ones, as many of the other ones were not completed by her.

"Book" - By Chapter (in process, see Plans though)

INTRO - The hope and what actually happened.

MY PATH TO A GREAT LIFE

Regardless of the path taken, it is what got you here. You can learn much from it and make new choices. This is an incredible opportunity to make more and more great choices for a great life.

My Victory For Life - Gen'l, one of K's

What I, Barbara, Am Giving Up

And Leaving Behind On the

Path To Freedom And The

Next Level For Me

There once was a small child

who got big but stayed small -

Gen'l - "But what is the ending?"

Cleaning Up My Racket Of

Being A Child - Gen'l but

directly applies

Justifications, Excuses Be Gone -

Refers a bit to her Dyer use and

playing the cards you wuz dealt

(See "History" box, further down.)

WHEN A PROBLEM OCCURS

(Psych Methods - Pick form or method,

Beliefs Directory - Pick the belief

Emotions/Fear Directory - Pick the emotion or fear

Problem Solving Process/Forms)

Event - Rational Analysis

Troubling thought - Refer to Beliefs Directory for the belief or your beliefs section on this page. Forms To Use.

Core belief change: Worksheet

Feel "down" - Creating "Up"

THOUGHT MANAGEMENT - Barb's rules for dealing with thoughts

ANXIETY MANAGEMENT

What To Do When I'm Down

Proportionate Response

Betablockers Reaction

RELAXATION, BREATHING

My relaxation routines,

decisions

Comments on relaxation, breathing - To

Barbara from Keith, re: potential

breathing practices

PHYSICAL MANAGEMENT

Physical Summary/Plan Page

Blood Sugar Stability - Her program

Effects Of Not Keeping In Balance -

Why keep in balance, gen'l

Costs Of Destabilization

TO DO'S

GENERAL

Possible to do's

DAILY DO'S

Daily Routine - B's

Daily Practices Checklist - B's

EMPOWERING TALK

The Positivity Ratio - Do this and I'll guarantee happiness...

My Daily Reminders Reading

Languaging - Using precise,

empowering language

Procedure To Implement New

Conversations

MY AFFIRMATIONS

See Beliefs, below, for the creation of new beliefs and for her top 10 "tunes". The coverage of those tunes includes substitutes for her false beliefs. (Enter non-linked items into search engine for examples.)

My Main Affirmations Page

Affirmations By Area

Installing My New Affirmations

My Daily Reminders Reading

My Coping Statements

My Top 25 Gratitude Affs

Gratitude For The Basics

My Self Esteem Affs

Affirmations From "I Should Be

Better" Chat, How To Create

Them

The False Affirmations I State And

Believe

MY DECLARATIVES

My stands in life

My commitments in life

Who I declare myself to be

My full intentions to cause

My possibilities in life and for me

My key decisions

CURRENT COMMUNICATION

__________________________

6/13 Aggressively Engaging In The Beliefs Processes - And Going To Completion - This is a chance to get huge results...

Notes from our conversations:

9/21/10 Self-creation of "feeling bad",

"acting bad", and stopping that!

Notes To Barbara, As We Go

Individual Comms (referred to in

the notes to Barbara section)

Notes on Comm w/ Barbara

Format for Coaching

Empathy, Sympathy, Compassion

CURRENT TRACKING

Tracking/Monitoring Sheet - (Barb)

Evaluation Of Progress

LEARNING

Articles To Read - Read these to

settle some issues and lack of

understanding.

Positive Reading List

PROGRAMS

Program For Learning And Progressing - A place to record the pieces and plans along the way..

Practices - Barbara's daily, checklist

HISTORY

See also Me, The Movie

FAMILY

BARBARA AND HER MOTHER

Brother

Cleaning Up My Racket On My

Brother

MY LIFE, SO FAR

Me, The Movie

Cast Of Characters (see Me, The

Movie link, listing the characters and linking to some in-depth profiles from

there. especially Mother). Fred, the psychologist; Keith, the synthesist; Darlene, the symbolic competitor.

Self-imposed Suffering And Struggle.

The Story That Caused My Life So

Far: I'm Not Good Enough

Justifications, Excuses

Why I've Not Succeeded And Why I

Don't Believe I'll Succeed...

See Success In Life (Genl)

Resistance - Genl, removing the

blocks to progress

MANAGEMENT

Format for Coaching

What Will Work?

Tracking/Monitoring Sheet

Evaluation Of Progress (Barb)

Coachability:

The Football Player And The

Coach - A Life Metaphor

LOGISTICS/HOW TO'S

How To Use My Site Section

RESOURCES

Team

PLANNING

SHORT TERM PLANNING

Short Term To Dos, As They Occur

L. T. PLANNING AND OVERVIEW

It is vital that Barbara complete the following items to have a plan and a foundation that will transform her life!

Enter non-linked items into search engine for examples.

Barbara's Own Proactive Plan - A copy of her successful plan for a period

Objectives for Barbara's Plan - That she would seek to attain.

Objectives In Terms Of Practices -

That she would seek in practices

Plans And Programs For Barbara - An outline plan and sequence for what to learn, read, construct, etc.

Prototype/format for a plan:

Constructing A Life Plan

My Newly Created Future

Creating A New Future - General

piece for her use

Completing The Past - To read

My Dreams (See Dreambook.)

My Purpose - A beginning and a format

for Barbara, with a commitment

My Values (See Values, Stds, Rules.)

My Rules

My Standards For Myself And

My Life

Key Commitments

My Key Overall Commitment

Letting Go, Leaving Behind - Barbara

statement about going to the next

level and on the path to freedom.

Barbara's

CODE OF HONOR FOR MYSELF

STRENGTHS, ABILITIES

STRENGTHS/ABILITIES Barbara - Not completed by her

SUCCESSES

Barbara specific:

Successes, Victories - Not followed through by her

ALREADY DONE SUCCESSFULLY -

Not followed through by her

SEARCH ENGINE

Use this to find related items with the key words, so you can find instructions/examples.

ISSUES

Other issues are in the Beliefs section, primarily the TOP 10 Issues.

Analyses - Key Items (More

complete list)

Drug And Substance Misuse

Bingeing

Tranking

Feelings, Managed Or Run By

Weight loss and what it means

Self Esteem

I don't value myself

Self discipline

Sleep and Insomnia Issues

I'll Be Lonely And Miserable

Rageful Envy

Vindictiveness/Revenge

I Hate Myself, Try To Hurt

Myself, Angry With Myself

Time - Not Enough

Other relevant items - readings

I am safe, always, at the core - I

now give up trying to control

the uncontrollable

PATTERNS

Scheduling too much, cancelling out,

invalidating self for it

Being disorganized, clutter

MY RACKETS

Form For Rackets - General form, where we keep doing something for false payoffs but at great costs

Being A Child

Screw you, you mother substitute! - Part of why she doesn't get results

Being superior

You as a human being - with limits

(A general piece that applies)

BEHAVIORS

Punishing - Gen'l - Inflicting pain on

another to get a result

DECISIONS

Completing Decisions - A form for Barbara, which can be used by anyone.

Hyperventilation Decision - Hypothetical possibility (designed to get a rise out of her to propose something)

In This Column:

Introductory

My life, so far

My growth path

Thought Management

Anxiety Management

Relaxation, breathing

Physical management

Management

Resources

In This Column:

Beliefs

Empowering Talk

Affirmations

Issues

My Rackets

Behaviors

Decisions

INSTRUCTIONS: See also "Book" - By Chapter. Site Navigation Bar at the bottom of the page.

Items in black, other than headings, are items not yet written by Barbara. The formats, examples, and write-ups relative to those, but not written for her or by her, can be accessed by entering the words into the search engine. (Some items have been written to provide a skeleton or basis for Barbara to add to, revise, reformulate, create for herself. I've listed some items that have no links on this page, as Barbara has not completed those yet; when it comes time to work on them, enter the keyword into the search engine and follow the instructions and/or the examples.)

In This Column:

To Do's

General

Daily Do's, Centering

Current Tracking, Monitoring

Tracking Sheets

Notes As We Go

Learning

Programs And Practices

Planning & Overview

Purposes, values, code

Strengths, abilities, success