How do I know when I've gotten far enough?

When your life is running well and you're getting the results you want in life, including feeling emotionally centered and calm, then you've reached the point of sufficient mastery.


Dealing With And Changing Beliefs   

The Chaining Of Thoughts: Unchaining Yourself In Order To Create Greater Happiness 


Beliefs Contents/Links

The Beliefs Workbook - Organization For The Vital Completion Of Your Beliefs - Good guide for which beliefs to tie down.


Use these forms to make it easier:

BELIEFS FORMS Contents/Links


1. Identify what the erroneous beliefs are. (thoughts preceding "bad results.")
2.  Test for truth and then understand them.
3.  Choose - Keep or not?
4.  Create a believable, functional, and workable belief
5.  Learn, beef up, internalize the belief

Brief Checklist For Changing A Belief - "Just Follow The Format For Great Results" 


Create a solid foundation
The milestones
Suggested prior learning
Initial tests plus measuring progress
Making the commitment
Practicing basic thought management.
Restructuring the beliefs
Part I.    Re-Form the beliefs
Part II.   Completely install the new beliefs
Part III.  Implement new actions
Measure the final result

  Necessary beliefs to master as a foundation


This program is designed for those who want to have a solid foundation of beliefs to eliminate anxiety, stress, and self-criticism and to have happiness and who are willing to do the necessary work.   The work will start to have clear benefits after only a short while and will produce more benefits before finishing the project than the cost of time for the total project.

Most people have done a portion of this on a dilettantish basis, using it at a very surface level and not even implementing even 50% of what is needed.

This program is what is needed to actually create new beliefs that will accomplish your having a whole new life that is a happy and effective one.  Without the completion, you'll keep more of what doesn't work. 

Please make the commitment!

Your result is that you will have such a true foundation that you do not slip back to lower levels, as opposed to what happens in the superficial and/or less complete types of approaches.  It's permanent!  And it's yours to keep for life!


Along the way to the final result, there are milestones that indicate you have progressed to a new level that is sufficient for now.  Some may be revisited later, when appropriate, to crank up to the next level.

Some milestones can be worked toward simultaneously with others, if you wish, as parallel tracks to work on alternately, but all with sufficient time and regularity devoted to them.   Milestone 1 (knowing where you are starting) can be done before Milestone 2 (adequate working knowledge of beliefs).  Milestone 3 (commitment, for a reason) can be done anytime.

Thought control can be practiced while gathering one's actual beliefs.  Conversion of beliefs to healthier ones can be done simultaneously (or any time) to the gathering of the beliefs themselves, though you should follow the schedule suggested for finishing them in a set period.

Gathering of affirmations and beliefs from other sources, by category of type, can be done while formulating affirmations and while studying the basic life affirmation, though it should be done earlier in general, as they are necessary for formulating your final (for awhile) basic set of beliefs that you will install. 

Hopefully, you get the idea - regardless of how many you are working on, each must get adequate time and continuity so that each is progressing solidly.


To measure our progress and/or to just have a starting point,

___ Take the Barksdale Self Esteem Evaluation
___ Also I suggest you take the Barksdale Personal Stress Evaluation

___ Milestone 1.  Knowing where one is on the scales, so one has a base from which to develop further, especially having deeper insight into the details of what is causing the undesired effects in one's life. (Send the completed evaluations to your coach/counselor.)


___ Know How The Mind Works  
___ It is helpful to know what our needs actually are
___ The basics about beliefs (just this long page, for now)  
___ The basics about emotion management (just this long page, for now)

___  Milestone 2.  Attainment of a basic rudimentary working knowledge of beliefs, so one can work with them productively and appropriately with little wasted effort and more prolonged effect.


Commit to what is necessary to create a new belief system that will produce happiness!

___ Complete the form at the bottom of the Dealing With And Changing Beliefs
          page.  It is called Checklist For What I Believe About Changeability. 
      __ Acknowledge that beliefs can be changed for a good effect. 

___ Complete My Commitment To Correcting My Beliefs

___ Milestone 3. Having committed to successful completion, to building a strong foundation, recognizing the desired effect that this will have on one's life.  (Copy to one's coach/counselor so that he/she can know you are committed, in a more detailed way than some general statement.)


It is very acceptable and often recommended to skip over this to go ahead with the beliefs gathering and modifying process that continues after this, coming back to this later - at some point the "Masters" learn to stop the negative in its tracks and to automatically bring in the "empowering" (true, workable) beliefs.

___ Practice Thought Control/Management, stopping thoughts and inserting a
      distraction or new thought, as in Dealing With Negative Thinking In The

___ Milestone 4. Attaining the level of thought control where one believes one is controlling one's thoughts well 80% of the time.  (Work on this might continue through a number of milestones listed for later.)


Set up a structure

___ Set up a notebook (or some organization system) to keep and work with the
      beliefs.  (Possible Beliefs Workbook Table Of Contents.)

___ Milestone A.  Having set up a structure in which to hold one's work as it progresses.

Identify and record existing beliefs

The point of this is to gather for awareness of what is going on the beliefs and thoughts that you note are behind negative emotions, so that you can clean up the beliefs to what is true and thus eliminate most, if not all, unnecessary negative (unhappy) emotions.  The most helpful reference will be the rightmost box in the Beliefs And Thoughts, Contents And Links page.

___ For two weeks, start identifying and gathering beliefs.

1.  Write out your "thoughts" and/or events that evoke negative emotions.
Carry with you a spiral bound notebook (recommended, though any storage device that works is good), constantly noting them every day for the two weeks.  Some people will just record them directly into their journal.  Note that you will have some beliefs where you can't seem to lay out the underlying thoughts - just list those beliefs as a category which can be broken into its component parts, under the name of the resulting emotion:  guilt, shame, and such.  As a prompter, see the list of emotions in Emotions Contents/Links page.  For beliefs to pick off one by one, you can print out and circle your primary beliefs you'd like to change on  Beliefs And Thoughts, Contents, Links page.  

AND you could use forms that spur you to more directly identify beliefs, such as
Sentence Completion Exercise - Beliefs and/or List Of Beliefs Sentences,.

a.  Converting From The Lower To The Higher Conversation Column Worksheet
(examples of filled in forms are here: Reforming The Thought Sentences). 

b.  Any significant beliefs (or impactful events) should be processed further using this form that takes one from the "activator", through describing what occurred, thoughts/beliefs, memories, emotions, etc., ending up devising strong statements and new behaviors: Thought Change Long Form.

___ Milestone 5.  Having gathered the predominant majority of one's beliefs/thoughts, ready for being organized and addressed and replaced.

__ Thereafter, add and process beliefs

You will continue recording thoughts and beliefs for the entire project, every day, at least in a journal, or you can access one of the forms.  To be better able to access and use the forms, familiarize yourself with the BELIEFS FORMS. and select what works for you, but keep the directory in mind for when you may need other forms for processing beliefs.

Use a form if you want to, where you can simply just write down the beliefs directly on the form as they pop up in your thoughts, and then later re-form them or use another  worksheet.

In parallel, begin the foundational/reinforcing life learning, while doing the above:

Running parallel to your gathering and processing beliefs, you will do this, setting it up as if it were a separate project for a time block each day. 

___ Start learning and check off your acceptance and understanding of each of the
Realities Of Human Behavior, from Lilburn S. Barksdale, "Building Self Esteem" book.  

The book, in various formats, is available at no charge on the site I've set up containing The Wisdom Of L.S. Barksdale -Straight Thinking, High Self Esteem And Low Stress.  To get a book, use the "free books" link in the navigation bar on the site.  

___ Read and study the Learning Program For Sound Self Esteem (see the box and links on Additional Pieces To Read/Watch).

___ Start learning and reviewing the "basic affirmations" and basic beliefs about life
           (See the Appendix, below, for the checklist of what to "complete" on).

___ Understand what "awareness" is and what it means

___ Milestone 6. Beginning learning, but full familiarity with, the basic life beliefs that form the foundation of a healthy thought system and of other beliefs.  (Installed fully in a later step.)  Criteria for having reached this is one's assessment that one is fully familiar with each of them and having accepted most, even though you may have to work on some later.

Process existing beliefs into new beliefs!!!!!

___ Compile and prioritize them in a list (Sources:  Any issue you have can be put in the site search engine - as you read on any belief or issue, you can use any affirmations connected to those issues as new beliefs.  Copied from the "identify beliefs section:  "As a prompter, see the list of emotions in Emotions Contents/Links page.  For beliefs to pick off one by one, you can print out and circle your primary beliefs you'd like to change on  Beliefs And Thoughts, Contents, Links page.")

     List your major beliefs and prioritize them (see Beliefs List Prioritized form)
          You will, of course, have to flip through your various writings of beliefs that
               you have created so far and enter them into the list.
          Use this as your master working and accumulation worksheet.
          You will generally work down the list from the highest impact downward,
               but you might choose to vary for a reason. Try to limit the list to no
                more than 20 (or, if you must, go to 30) for now.
     Do a special list of your core beliefs (See The Core Belief Statements page.)   
          As you modify these, you will find that you will destroy many false, harmful
          beliefs that had depended on the false core beliefs for their support.

___ Milestone 7A.  Compiled, listed, and prioritized.

___ Create.  Replace each major dysfunctional belief with a new one(s) that is true and believable.  Create stands, statements, and declarations that will help extinguish and/or clarify.  (Any issue you have can be put in the search engine and you can use any affirmations in those sections.  The thoughts you used to address the erroneous thinking in the two week gathering of thoughts are good sources of new affirmations.)

   The most detailed worksheet is the Thought Change Long Form, which you
   should primarily use.  However, others are listed and available on the
   Changing Beliefs page.  (Remember that each old belief had a construction
   process that was complete, so each new one has to have a complete construction

___ Copy.  Select from affirmations already on the site, especially the basic underlying beliefs that support the entire foundation of new beliefs (Self Esteem
Affirmations Page) and those related to issues you have (Any issue you have
can be put in the search engine and you can use any affirmations listed on those
pages.)  Utilize also the comforting and coping statements throughout the site.

___ Milestone 7B. Having addressed each of the major beliefs (at least 20) in-depth, replaced them with true ones and set up the supporting statements.  This is a long process, during which it is permissible to begin installing the new beliefs and affirmations.  Reformulating a major belief probably will take between 1 to 10 hours. The quicker one is where you have found affirmations that you find true, so that alot of the work is already done for you.  This is a "80%" or more exercise, meaning you might not have perfected many of them, but that they are 80% or more effective.

The final "form" of this process will be, for each key belief, a master ending declaration of what is true, with all the supporting evidence and case for why it is true (in case you need it reinforced or reinstalled later).  It can be useful also in some cases to do some master declaration of what you declare to not be true.


Use self talk to implement new beliefs/thoughts, using your Reminders Notebook:   

___ Affirmations derived from new beliefs (Using Affirmations Effectively) - This is a
     "firming" up.
___ Other Self Talk derived from new beliefs
___ Give up and eliminate stories from your repertoire.

Note that this includes the process by which the original wrong beliefs came about: repetition (a kind of "grooving in" to form neuronal patterns that are created whenever we think something over and over).  So... don't stop short before the process is complete (and that means the new thought is effortless and automatic and dominant!) - most people quit early, and thus they don't get the results.  You must complete this process, even if it takes weeks or months - you do it "on the side", setting aside a certain amount of time daily, and then going about your normal life in the time still available.  There is no sacrifice here, as the missing time from your "normal" day will not have any real effect on your life - and you'll probably push aside something really valueless that you would have spent time on anyway...

___ Milestone 8.  While 7B is of immense impact, this milestone is the "coup de grace" (the finishing off), a relative mastery of using only true, progressive self talk and eliminating virtually all stories, forever.


___ For each belief I have I have specified a new behavior or action that will reinforce and be consistent with the new belief.

___ Milestone 9.  Just as one did in childhood with each new belief, one will "complete the set", as each mental record that has a true belief in it, will also have related to it (like a set of dishes) an emotion and a pre-setup suggested behavior that is consistent with producing whatever the desired result will be. 


___ Complete the Barksdale Self Esteem Evaluation and genuinely score 90 or above and compare it with your initial score.  (I would also recommend doing the related Barksdale Personal Stress Evaluation.)

___ Milestone 10.  Achieving these levels allow for a much greater peace of mind and much more effective directing of one's energies, with ease and grace.


      Putting it together into a life philosophy foundation... be aware that all Life
           Masters have done this, for when it is complete, they are complete and very
      Listing your values, which you will use to govern your life with clarity and
      Deciding actions and behaviors I am committed to.

___ Milestone 11.  Achieving a completion of your chosen way of being, acting, and believing in your life, so that you have the "whole" integrated completely together, moving toward that which you value the most, providing the most value to your life.


Necessary affirmations to learn, master, and install to have a solid foundation in life.  Texts:  "Building Self Esteem" and, optionally, "Stress-Free Living", both by L.S. Barksdale (see Barksdale Books Links for free ebook copies of this).  Check off which you accept, as you learn them.  See the Barksdale Self Esteem Evaluation and the Barksdale Personal Stress Evaluation for examples of basic beliefs to have.  Access many of the Barksdale Materials And Programs on this site, currently being added as of 4/10. 

____ My thoughts are not real, nor are any "made-ups". Beliefs As Recordings.
____ I am not my actions nor my beliefs nor my body nor my mind.  I am simply
            he/she who acts or believes. (Who I Am)
____ Very little is needed to have a happy life.
____ I am 100% responsible for all in my life.  I have innate authority to do
         anything I see fit.
____ There is no set standard on how well one should do.  (Comparing)
____ There is no basis for good/bad/right/wrong and no justification for blame.
____ Value judging and criticism creates harm and the payoffs are not valid.
____ People can only do the best their current awareness allows them to do. 
____ No one in the entire world is one iota more or less worthy than I am. 
____ What another does or does not do has nothing to do with my self worth.

You are not finished until you "buy into" all of these and/or pass the Barksdale Self Esteem Evaluation at 90 or better and the Barksdale Personal Stress Evaluation with a score of 20 or less.


1. Be aware, notice:
2. Record (what happened, emotion, possible
      Consider The Super Journal
3. List, then put them in priority order
       Use this form
4. Do them one at a time, in order!
   Learn from others (see Directory of Beliefs, as many have been answered
   Use the forms, starting from the easiest ones, until you choose to build up to a more complex one.
5. Install to the point of automaticity

The page on this:  The Overall Process For Changing Beliefs.