We spend time on things that we think will be of benefit to us, we read, we learn and then forget, we have insights that disappear soon afterward - but all are like passing breezes leaving nothing of use.
We must "harvest" these, put them into place, make them usable and useful - to get that which we want most in life.
If we don't implement, then we get to have a life of wishing, of airy fairy hoping that something will come along and transform our lives. We go into a kind of passivity, of vague hope and few results.
We use only a small part of what we are capable of.
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And, to me, that is absolutely unacceptable. Something I absolutely will not tolerate. I only have one f'ing life and I am going to live it to its fullest! Amen! And Pabsco Biscum!
Pontiff Keith
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You can spot the people who don't complete things, as there lives are full of undones and unsettled philosphies and beliefs that continue to cause havor. They keep repeating their old problems, simply because they do not solve the underlying causes, as it seems to be too much work or because they are simply oblivious to them.
That's not the way to live life. We must notice what is happenng and then learn and create ways of living a better life. That better life looks something like this:
Bad routine/program --> bad result --> notice --> develop new routine --> Implement --> good result
As opposed to:
Bad routine/program --> bad result --> don't notice... Unresolved problems/misery
--> criticize self, do nothing else Unresolved problems/misery
--> notice, do a little, don't finish Unresolved problems/misery
The metaphor here is like in certain rural areas where passivity rules: old rusty cars all over the yard, with a "some day" I'll take care of that. [Equivalent: piles of papers to someday read, messes to some day clean up (physical or mental/emotional)...]
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From the form:
Making sure these are believed (and true)
___ Make sure you have provided the reasons and supports for why the beliefs are true.
Repeating to learn:
___ For ___ days I will repeat this (these) new belief aloud with strength ___ times a day.
Practicing:
___ I will envision myself in the situation, implementing the new thoughts and seeing me feeling the way I want to feel and the results I want. (Even if there is no guarantee that the other person or the event will be different because of what you’ve changed, it is good to create an “ideal result”, for it sets up the “right” view
[This part is left out so often, though it actually takes very little effort, and you don't even have to do it well, as if it were an assignment to excell at. Just take yourself quickly through the situation, seeing yourself do what you've decided to implement, and see the pretend results. The brain likes that and it gives it a little bit of extra endorphins. It also builds up the routine so that it is automatic, as it is, in effect, practice, even if it is "pretend".]
Completion:
__ I have completed this so it is automatic and effortless, instantly recalled for use, and producing the desired results.
__ Another person: I have reviewed what has been done and I believe this is ___% complete.
[If someone doesn't "check" there is no accountability for completion and plenty
of opportunity to stop short.]
