BEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT
MANAGING MOTIVATION, HABITS, DISCIPLINE, EMOTIONS, ADDICTIONS




Related Contents/Links Sections:      Emotion//Fear Management         Psychology  

                              Motivation            Habits, Willpower, Discipline, Self-Control 

Poor behavior is not a weakness of character, but of strategy wherein we need to use the mechanisms that drive human beings.

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    Behavior Management Overall
    Identify what to focus on
    Managing
        Managing: Willpower, discipline, habits
        Facilitators of "good" behaviors
    Feedback, measuring
    Practices
BEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT OVERALL

Behavior Management - Main page

   The Human Behavior Process Diagram

   Cognitive Dissonance - It doesn't 'feel right'

   Where Are You Being Intentionally Stupid?  Where Could
        You "Know Better" - And then do better...

   The Struggle Of Behaviors Between The Higher And Lower
        Brains - And what you can do to make it work.

Behaviors - What Works, What Doesn't And What To Change 

Why We Do What We Do - And How To Remove The Negative Part Of It - Simply need to understand the mechanics of it.

  Why Do I Do Things That Are Not Good For Me? -
     Believe It Or Not, It Is Within Your Control! tba

Causal Chain For Behaviors - You must know how this works, if you are to manage behavior effectively!
   Diagram of The Causal Chain 

Elephant In The Room Of Human Life - Who Is In Charge? - Your human nature and how to work with it.
   See also Habits, Willpower, Resistance, below

IDENTIFY WHAT TO FOCUS ON

   Big Vital Behaviors - Identify - And Don't Waste
     Time On The Unimportant Or Obscure   
        
   How To Motivate Yourself

MANAGING

Breakdowns and Breakthroughs
   Breakdowns Are Not So Bad, Sh-- Happens, So
        What?   
   Mistakes and Failures 
Being, Choosing Ways Of
 
HOW TO CHANGE

See The Change Worksheet 
The Process Of Change - Very Doable 

MANAGING:  WILLPOWER, DISCIPLINE, HABITS

"Willpower" - Different than you think. must be managed,
    preserved, renewed, more like a muscle, not "character"
   The Willpower Reserve - What to put in, stop draining of
       What Increases Or Diminishes The Willpower Reserve? -
           A useful summary chart to direct you the right direction
   Trust Of Self - Keeping My Word To Myself - Huge increaser
        of follow-through and self view!
Habits - Read particularly The Power Of Using Habits!
Resistance
  The Role Of "Conflicting Needs" At The Same Time -
      Resistance and trouble controlling one's behavior
      occurs when a "conflciting need" is larger.
Impulse Control - You managing it instead of vice versa.

Psychological Energy And Power - Keeping Up The Reservoir
     For Greater Effectiveness In Life - Essential knowledge!
               Emotional Bank Account - Vital! 
The Struggle Of Behavior - The higher vs. lower brains. No, you're not imagining it and it isn't a character flaw. 
Discipline - Not "effort" but returning to path and repeating to create an effortless habit.  This defines your pathway and the steps to a result.
    Self-Control - The means to a great and happy life. 
       Inserting clearer incentives that work and practiced
       "tricks".


FACILITATORS OF "GOOD" BEHAVIORS

A High State Of Resourcefulness - Dramatic increase in the
quality of life and of results!
The "100%" Commitment - The multiplier of effectiveness. 

FEEDBACK, MEASURING

Why Monitor/Track To Succeed 

PRACTICES 

This would include Discipline and Self-Control, also included above. 
The Pause - A remarkable difference in choices! Engages other part of the brain, automatically.
Pacing, The Practice Of - As in a marathon, it works.






FORMS TO USE 

The Change Worksheet - The Complete Process To Succeed In Change - The complete version.
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Motivation And Removing The Barriers - The Two Elements To Successfully Having People Do Something
- For yourself or others.
 
Undesired Outcomes - Fear of undesired outcomes or of failure in general has a significant effect on your behavior, obviously. But we fail to estimate the effects and our adaptability, plus...       
   Learn how to be Fearless and also how to
   Look at so-called Mistakes and Failures. 

 
MOTIVATION

Motivation
How To Motivate Oneself - The Art And Science Of Motivation, including how everything works in your emotion system.  
    Vision, Creating A      
    False Payoffs
    Not "Feeling Like It" - The
        Inevitable Human Struggle
    Punitive Way Of Living 
        Inflicting Pain On Another To
             Get A Result 
Fear as a motivator
Changing Others' Behavior - And Your Own 
THE BEHAVIORS

Addiction 
Anger and its cousins 
Distractions And ADD  Living empty
Escape


Eating Wrongly - The reasons and the solutions 
Laziness 
Procrastination
Rackets We Perpetrate 
Reactionary "Oppositional" Behavior - Classic.
Self Sabotage - Know what it is, really!
   Self Sabotaging Behaviors Of "Nice" People - The 9
       mistakes  
 

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THE PROCESS OF BEHAVIOR CHANGE
THE CAUSAL CHAIN

ID undesirable behavior, costs/benefits -->

ID replacement desired, benefits of change, resistances/obstacles -->

Decide "net" worth of the change -->

Commit -->

Set up structure, plan -->

Monitor, feedback, correct.
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Part of the structure can be "partnering"
Point is to increase the odds of successful change.

To effect a change, we are applying our problem solving skills and our habit management skills.
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     The forms to use!
     Fear of undesired outcomes
     Motivation
     The behaviors
     The process of behavior change
         Diagram 
The Program To Learn And Implement Effective Behavior Change For Oneself  - Follow the program in the main entry page for this section Behavior Management - Managing Onself To Get The Desired Behaviors (I will eventually modify this; email me if you want one soon.)  This is directly related to habit development, covered in Habits Contents/Links  section.