BEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT
MANAGING ONESELF TO GET THE DESIRED BEHAVIORS

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Behavior Management Contents/Links - For complete directory and overview
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A SERIES TO LEARN EFFECTIVE BEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT

Behavior management is an essential skill in getting oneself to get the most out of life and also, certainly, in the relationship area.

This is a page to read through first, and then come back and follow the links as a learning program for the elements involved.  You can add to the process by selecting what you think you might benefit from from the directory Behavior Management Contents/Links.  Use that proactively. 

You haven't finished this section until you are able to implement to a good degree all of your key desired behaviors - which can be done, though popular myths have influenced our beliefs to think we can't and that we are victims of our human nature - bullbleep!  (A discussion that is relevant:  Am I Capable Of Making My Life Excellent?  Can I Have Confidence In Reaching That Higher Level?)

The basic concepts that should be understood are under Behaviors - What Works, What Doesn't And What To Change.   Read that section as lead in to the other links in this "linking" section.

One of the keys is to learn how to motivate oneself, including how everything works in your emotion system.   Stopping Procrastination will change your life and peace of mind significantly.  Of course, both for yourself and related to others, you'll want to nail your understanding of The Two Elements To Successfully Having People Do Something.

For yourself and in relationships, it is essential to manage anger.  And it is essential that you know, as in all the areas, as much as possible about the causes and how things work.  Read Anger. 

And there are those that believe it is possible to deliberately Sabotage Oneself, but there are some nuances to learn in order to stop what people call "self sabotaging behaviors", which are simply and actually just conflicting beliefs and emotions that need to be re-worked.

Fear of Undesired Outcomes or of failure in general has a significant effect on your behavior, obviously.  Learn how to be Fearless and also how to look at so-called Mistakes and Failures.  Without this drag on what you do, one aggressively "goes for it", for what one really wants, without being governed by fears.   Underlying alot of what holds us back, and makes us not feel good, is not sufficiently addressing the question Am I Safe?  knowing that we are actually virtually Always Safe - a major, major, major thing to learn in life.

Overcoming bad habits is obviously a huge part of behavior management.  It is vital, but it is very doable, doing it the same way as you created the undesired habits.  Good habits are a major source (or lack thereof) of power in life.   Addressing one's Addictions, whether  "soft" or "hard" addictions, is a key to having a life that is on purpose instead of run by short term "needs".  A major part of life for many people consists of overcoming their resistance to "what is", as it is a source of unnecessary human suffering and struggle.

As you'll learn in NLP or with Tony Robbins, behaviors are determined by the payoffs and the costs involved - and being clear about them.  In order to make sure we are clear, we employ such things as declarations and commitments along with Reminders.  Employing reminder systems is one of the major "workables" that improves life tremendously.   Whenever there is an (inevitable) breakdown in something somewhere, it is imperative that one use a "system" to look at that and repair it so that it doesn't repeat itself.  Use the Breakdowns and Breakthroughs forms.  Correcting how one looks at breakdowns is a key understanding to learn in life - see Breakdowns Are Not So Bad, Sh-- Happens, So What?