87% OF PHYSICAL MALADIES ARE CAUSED BY TOXIC THOUGHTS.
99% OF UNHAPPINESS IS CREATED BY FALSE THOUGHTS.
THIS IS THE FIRST PRIORITY FOR ABSOLUTE CONTROL.
1. Stop it, now. Never let it mushroom.
2. But you can't (or won't) stop it if you think there is some value to it. Therefore, we have to learn which thoughts have real value (few) and which don't (many!), though we at first naively believe they do.
3. Then, if you don't have something else to go into the space, you'll find that a "vacuum sucks" (into itself the same nonsense available in the atmosphere.
4. A chaotic, unfocused mind will not do the job. You must, like in anything, train the mind to do it. (Just like you can't play music if you don't train!)
It's worth it! There is an immense, immense value to having a high quality of thoughts!!!!
The "efficient tipping point" for managing thoughts
What you will control
Facts you need to be convinced of first
You don't have to believe it or understand it...
THE "EFFICIENT TIPPING POINT" FOR MANAGING THOUGHTS
If I want ice, my "tipping point" is to cool it to 32 degrees. The last degree of cooling, though it is no bigger than the previous degree of cooling, is the little bit that tips it all over - that extra little bit that makes all the difference.
In thought control, the most efficient point to virtually stop the damage is right after the first thought occurs. The bad effect of the thought goes to zero.
After that point, if not stopped, it all mushrooms into thoughts about thoughts about thoughts - and if they are toxic thoughts the body chemicals create mini-disasters and body tensions that destroy the body (bit by bit) and one's happiness (bit by bit). If the latter rush into our minds, then nothing else fits into that same space. Consequently, there is no space for peace or happiness unless we keep out the unhappy thought that fills it and put in the happy thought.
This is the crucial point for you to buy into, to believe. If you believe this and if you truly are committed to be happy in life, you will assure that you follow the required path.
The key rule here is:
You must "catch it early!" Never allow it to compound or spiral upward to have any effects.
WHAT YOU WILL CONTROL
You will control:
1. Your allowing a thought to enter the gates further into your mind.
You will be convinced that you can control your thoughts (because you can) and that most thoughts aren't true and most of them are useless. You might have heard this old truth, and then taken it in a trite way, not actually letting it land as an immensely significant fact that could help to change the very essence of the quality of your life!
2. Your creation of selected thoughts (happy and/or useful)
You already know you can create a thought and maybe even that you can access by choice a pre-selected thought, but you need to fully realize that you can also "make up" thoughts that are helpful and actually have a very real effect. You can "make up" many of these right in the moment, just by being aware that you can create the opposite thought to the bad feeling thought.
We'll get into the details later, but basically the process is to sense the thought (or that there is a thought that you sense and "feel" bad from) and then to screen it for usefulness, deciding whether to continue along the suggested path or not.
Then you'll do "opposites" of what the bad thought or actions would have resulted. (Having a pre-selected arsenal of useful thoughts is helpful, especially in the earlier stages of your training.)
Once you've decided to do this, it is absolutely workable.
Of course, you've got to be convinced of some basic facts and debunk some primitive ways of dealing with all of these thoughts.
FACTS YOU NEED TO BE CONVINCED OF FIRST
1. You do not need to continue down a path from a compelling, impelling thought that is untrue and feels bad.
Other than a physical threat, any thought that creates one feeling bad is an untrue thought. It is a "fool's" thought. Know that it is actually simply (?) a group of electrical impulses that cause chemicals, based on pictures (memories) of a primitive brain that is unable to differentiate what is real and what is not.
Ginning up more and more pain as a motivator, which is what stupid thinking of the primitive brains thinks works, does not actually work. It creates the opposite effect, but you've got to realize that and be convinced of that so that you don't keep reverting to stupid thinking. (See Why We Do What We Do.) You can inject thoughts that interfere with untrue thoughts, especially if you have a good "store" of thoughts that are useful and/or you choose to create "the opposite" right at the moment. And possibly the most effective strategy is to revise false beliefs by using one's higher brain, so that it no longer adds to the negative chaining of thoughts.
One part of your conversation with yourself would be that your higher brain (you) can choose what to deal with or not. With that permission available to you, you can toss out everything that is not useful, which will be about 99% of the thoughts that get generated.
___ Can you identify "bad feeling" thoughts?
___ Can you say "I choose not to continue holding that 'bad feeling' thought?
___ Can you inject thoughts you choose to?
If you didn't answer yes to each, we had better talk. Or email me why you didn't answer yes, so I can figure out another approach to convincing you.
2. You have the ability to discriminate and tell if something "feels bad".
99% of the thoughts stored in the brain are not totally true, outright false or not applicable. If you have set up, ahead of time, criteria to judge a thought, you have the ability to discern, distinguish and judge a thought. Once you look and see that there is no actual physical danger (which is the 1st test), then you have no immediate need for action and you can choose to consider the thought further and select it or deselect it.
3. You are not a helpless victim of your emotions and thoughts.
You are no longer a child, nor a teenager, nor a caveman. (It is very helpful for you to know the answer to Who I Am.)
4. Discomfort will not kill you or create a disaster.
You will feel discomfort, but you are actually capable of surviving and noticing the discomfort (even pain). The process behind this is explained in The Physics Of The Mind.
For instance, your cravings will generally "pass" in 10 to 15 minutes, during which you will not collapse (you need to get the message through to the "panic/danger center" that discomfort will work itself out favorably). You cannot tell the difference between a hunger signal or a thirst signal. If it is not actual time to eat, you'll drink water first and see if the signal subsides. You'll not blindly succumb to eating.
Most emotions, if not fed further, will pass in a minute or two, with virtually no harm - but if you get caught up in taking them seriously, it is YOU who creates the actual strain that is absolutely not needed.
Your brain will primitively and nonsensically repeat and repeat in hopes of getting attention and solution until "solved". However, 99% of the things don't even need to be dealt with, so we need to consciously screen them out and only deal with the 1% worth deciding whether to go further on.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO BELIEVE IT OR UNDERSTAND IT....
You don't have to believe it or understand it, just do it for 30 days and test to see if it is true. If you give this a fair trial, I guarantee you'll be 80+% free of toxic thoughts, and, also, much, much more happy. Consider also making the commitment that is in the Rx For Stress section. Note that you can develop the ability to create new thoughts and to debunk untrue thoughts and beliefs by going through and learning about beliefs and affirmative statements in the Beliefs And Thoughts section. Fine tuning this will pay off immensely for you.