SCHEMATIC OVERVIEW
CREATING GUARANTEED HAPPINESS

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THE BIGGEST PLUSES

Learn:  Grounding in the basics of the brain, thoughts, and realism

Decide:  Strong foundation - Life Philosopy

Exploders of unhappiness:
    Analysis (also crowds out irrational
         thought)
    Get rid of the basic nonsense
        underneath

Eliminate stress:  frequent checkins, breathing,relaxation,practices to train brain, learn viewpoints about danger/fears

The Power beliefs

Enhancers
   Visualizations

Deepeners
   Repeat the positive,dele the megative
   Recognize strengths, successes, talents
Extenders
   Remind
Rationalism enhancers
    Meditation
    Writing (organize, integrate, analyze)
Control thoughts and feelings 

Change standards, expectations
Fillup your own tank

REQUIRED - PROVEN HIGH EFFECT

Appreciation/gratitude - 3-5 things went well, grateful for, successes ( habit of looking for enhances social)
    Gratitude/appreciation letter/talk
Kind Acts - Insert into one day/week 


Pausing

KNOW

You will backslide, err
Simply redecide if benefits are worth it.

I only need a little.
I fill up on
ACTIVITIES




Play best possible self, cheeful self
Picture achievement of a goal or desired item
Watch somethng funny usica
friend
physical activity
Write about what worried about, then do
  brainstorming or discuss, rework beliefs
QUICKEN THE PROCESS

Write really, really quickly on the outline
Copy others for more material and guidance.
Decide, complile, and write your own
1.  Decide first:  Is it possible to become happier?
2.  Learn what produces:
        Happiness
        Unhappiness
        No or little happiness
3.  Implement practices, thinking mode
CAUSES OF HAPPINESS

Circumstances                         10%
Your developed viewpoints          60%
Heridity (set point), latest data    30%

Can be happy regardless of heredity or circumstances.
TEST
Oxford Happiness Questionnaire, scored online.
Concepts

Hedonic adaptation
Mispredicting

HAPPY PEOPLE
GOALS, purpose, mission
HABITS
   Self control
PRACTICES
   Gratitude journal
THOUGHTS
   Handle barrier thoughts soon
   Cultivate direct thoughts, attention, focus 
STRENGTHS USE - Test

Adversity - make plans, take direct action, generate alternatives
Accept the reality sluff off the numerous small upsets, hassles, probs
Direct one's attention on purpose
show compassion, celebrate others' successes, concern show in others failures
Respect, be kind to self, gentle with self, supportive of self
strong support network, religion, in common group 
Watch far less tv
Reinforce others, don't criticize or point out corrections to other people
Fill up own tank
Flow love, don't need it
Not overweight
Take care of body
    Excercise  ___ minutes week
NO-NOS

Blaming (and all forgiven, if slip up
Not stopping/seeing nonense thoughts
Victim behaviors
OCCUPATION fit interest, capability but some challenge, strengths
UNHAPPY PEOPLE

Depend on circumstance or others for
    happiness
Apathetic (vs. intentional activity)
Social comparison
    Envious
    Critical of others, concerned with Harmful behaviors
Criticizes, judges
Suffering inflicted as a motivator
Deride things, people
Unreasonable stds, expectations
"Feel" powerless
Future is bleak (fear)
Distorted, illogical thinking traps
Ruminate on negative
Entangled in others problems,
Control - try to control

Offsets
Imitate the behavior of a happy person
     Jump up and down in glee

Everything will turn out ok in the end
Good things are abundant and available, bad things are rare.
Bad things always pass.  And I can do a lot to forward myself
I build and create things that serve me for the long term, as a base for my life and confidence
ELIMINATE/REDUCE BARRIERS

Conflicting goals

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