TWINGES OF VAGUE DISCONTENT
A CRACK IN THE DIKE
tba
Discontent is one of the typical results of a vagueness of thought. It is part of a vague sense of unhappiness. Indeed it is a feeder of unhappiness.
Not good!
It's best to nip this in the bud. And to be ready to handle it, as we would any mental toxin that causes more toxins and has effects on the body.
Otherwise, this becomes part of an underlying current of not being happy. And I will not tolerate such a thing in my life. Sure thoughts will come as part of the association process from the mind, but they are not to be believed - they are misbeliefs, even lies to ourselves. We are not in fact happier by doing comparisons and the "not enough" thinking.
Indeed, Buddhism talks of suffering being created needlessly by our foolish endeavor for "more", and then more, and then more...neverending "not enoughness".
Not good!
WITHOUT DEFINITION, WE LEAVE OUR SENSE OF WHAT WE NEED IN UNLIMITEDNESS
Until one says "this is Enough", "this is what I truly need", one is left with a vagueness with no borders, no boundaries - approaching a limitlessness. And that limitlessness leaves us unfulfilled, and set up for failure just as the person who seeks perfection but dooms himself to perpetually being short, being in a sense of loss where there is none!
SENTENCES - AND CORRECTIONS
Gee, that person has a better car. (No, I don't need anything more than what I have. It means nothing. Things are fine as they are. I am setting artificial standards that are needless.)
Gee, they have a nicer house. (I'm comfortable where I am. It is just fine. It's all ok.)
I should have a nicer house and if I don't I'll be unhappy. [The last part of the sentence may be implicit, but it's there in some way, as this clearly has a negative value (sense) to it. ] (No, it's been proven that such a thing will not make me happier, so it makes no sense to be unhappy about not having it! I'm fine as is. Such a thing is purely optional, but it absolutely will not make me happier!)
I'm not getting enough done. I should be getting more done. (I cannot push the curve of time. I might like to, but it can't be done. There is nothing that says I have to get more done in life. All I can do is reprioritize and commit more time and effort to what is more important. Life is ok, no sweat, it's all working. I'm human!)
THE SOLUTION DEFINE, DEFINE, DEFINE - WITH REALISM
Your job, as part of your LifePlan, is to lay out (answer) what is enough, truly. But in defining what that is, you must also define what it is not. This is in the section called "What I Want", which allows for dreaming also. But that dreaming must not become an expectation nor a criteria for having a good life. Live to fill the needs and true happiness creators and you'll have plenty - and the rest will all be a bonus!
