Looking back, he shakes his head at what he had believed about how the world worked and about himself. The models and beliefs he saw, and then copied, produced inappropriate anger, low self-esteem, great anxiety, an excessive drive to achieve, a "neediness" for approval/validation/love - a lot of "wasted" life. Of course, he needed to learn by making some mistakes, but he learned much quicker through the guidance of "Mr. P", who was often called "the practical philosopher", for all he taught was designed to get actual results and no "pie in the sky." Occasionally, "Ms. R" pops onto the scene, a woman Kevin was fortunate enough to run into.
This is a real story, one that we all could live into. It actually, from the outside looking in, appeared to be a pretty good life, but Kevin's experience of the less aware part of his life was not a happy one. We're all, if we really look at it, living a "pretty good" life, although we most often fail to see that through the distorted lenses of non-optimal beliefs and missing knowledge.
His journey has arrived at happiness, but the vehicle to attaining that was "wisdom" - the knowledge of what actually works in life.
About his story
The story is broken into a sequence that covers the lessons, which also occur somewhat chronologically, since "lessons learned" tend to build onto each other. Often, the "next lesson" cannot be learned until the underlying parts of the immediately preceding lesson are fully into place.
Each piece is constructed to briefly cover the mistake and/or the lesson, but there are always solutions added and opportunities to go to the next step of learning and insights, to the extent you choose. It's a "multi-layered" opportunity for learning and understanding, where you can choose the layer, or depth, to go to.
Enjoy.
May you learn and then experience the happy, fulfilled life that is so very, very reachable!
THE CHAPTERS
A Bried Overview
Kevin's Childhood - A quick look (A childhood does not determines one's life but it indicates the
"starter beliefs" that can run one's life unless we do something about it.)
The "Mistakes" - Overview
Mr. P Comes Onto The Scene and Becomes "The Mentor"
FIRST THINGS FIRST
Learning how our basic equipment works and the "why" behind it. Without this understanding,
people "make up" highly erroneous explanations of how and why things work.
THE "MISTAKES"
Low self-esteem
Expectations, "standards" ideals
The "Happiness Gap"
No-blame
Inappropriate partners - Chosen from low self image, the unfinishable search for okness
Unlimited achievement drive - The resulting anxiety, compulsions, underlying depression even while progressing, dysphoria (lack of pleasure and enjoyment), imbalance
PUTTING THE PIECES TOGETHER
Learning how to learn - Egads! He thought he knew this, but it could be so much more impactful
and easier per amount of effort!
Learning what to learn - And in what order
How life/body/mind work - He didn't realize fully how the body and mind worked, assumed alot,
and missed alot, until completing this! The more one understands how life works, the better
life becomes!
Right-Wrong/Good-Bad - The stupidest, most ineffective game on earth.
Learning the simplest test of all: fear vs. "love"
Stories, False Perceptions
Becoming a real adult, not just getting older and repeating
The effect on addictions and being "driven"
False fears - Most are. How they "disappeared", though not overnight...
Anxiety - Learning that to be afraid of the future is preposterous....
The actual basics for happiness
The "Principles of Workability"
Relationships
Knowing the underlying basics
Understanding the gender differences - What a relief! And such greater workability!
The "Wise Guys" - Egads! You mean those "wise guys" were right. When you explain it in a
way I can understand I can see it!
Tools he learned and put into effect
To keep on track
To restore "high resourcefulness" and personal perspective/power.
Kevin's New Life Philosophy - And how he backs up the rationale for each piece, so it's solid and very
workable.
Kevin's Plan For His Life
Appendices.
Stuff that came along later that would have made it even easier and/or more effective.
