RULES
TOWARDS LIVING MY BEST LIFE



"If one wants to be happy, one must choose to live in HighSanity.  Essential components of high sanity are clarity, completeness, and order.  These are not traits of a person nor items to judge oneself on.  They are simply what works to create a happy, effective life."

                                                                                 The BuddhaKahuna
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THE ORDER

First, one must determine what one's values are, completing the forms provided in that section.

Then, one must set one's standards for how much one is determined to achieve related to those values, preferably without compromise (to the extent possible).

And finally one sets up rules (and commitments to follow those rules) that one is to follow to meet those standards.  A rule is "I will do this in order to get that."  It is a guideline for behaviors and practices in order to get the desired results in something.

Read Set Your Standards And Rules First! - Without These, Randomness And Reactivity Can Rule!   (Note that this article in this site is kept under Happiness, as it is a vital piece to achieving happiness.)


OFTEN NOT SET WELL, SO THEY NEED REVISION

We implicitly set rules about what we'll do to get a desired result.  But often they are not set well. 

"In order to get rid of this headache, I'll take an aspirin."  A reasonable rule.  But if you had a rule against taking drugs unless absolutely necessary, then you have a conflict.  The latter rule could be derived from the conclusion that drugs throw off the balance and health of the body - and health is a value where you choose to set high standards so that you will have plenty of energy and vitality to be productive and feel alive and happy.  So you might re-set the 1st rule to:  "When I get a headache, I will use the Handling A Headache method."  And you'd keep this available in your Reminders Notebook.


WE MUST HAVE "GUIDELINES" OR WE'LL GO OFF THE ROAD

Like the lines for lanes on mountain road, we need guidelines to keep us on the straight and narrow, of doing what is right and workable to get the results we want.

And we must convince ourselves that it is worthwhile following the guidelines.  We must be clear about all that is involved and which consequences we will tolerate in our lives.  We should do Statements Of Absolute Clarity Of Consequences.

Life is all about doing what it takes to create the consequences you want and/or to prevent the consequences you do not want.  That is the measure of effectiveness in life - and the ability to identify and be clear about the consequences of any action before you take it is an essential skill and commitment.


THE "BY-PRODUCT" OF USING SETTING/FOLLOWING RULES

Each time you follow the rules, you get better consequences.  And the more you follow the rules, the more confidence you gain in yourself plus confidence in having life turn out well.  And, of course, you get more happiness. 

It seems worth the effort, doesn't it!!!!


SET RULES FOR EACH AREA OF LIFE THAT IS IMPORTANT

You should have easily accessible rules set for yourself in each area of your life that is important to achieve what you desire in life.

Physical
Financial
Emotional management
Learning 
Mental
Relationship

(This page may have some links inserted for those areas.  If not, go to a main page with a search engine on it and enter the area and "rules" to get them, if they have been derived already for your use/revision.)